For starters, this very bright woman, and those like her, are operating under a huge, false assumption that sabotages their romantic prospects.Not only that, it will continue to sabotage them over and over again — until they change it.

Recently, a woman asked the question that prompted me to write this article.

She described herself as "a very one another because they are strong enough to "take" her, these men are also the cheaters, verbal/emotional abusers or worse.

I was really glad she asked her question for two reasons: (1) because the same problem affects so many smart, accomplished women, and (2) because I can explain what this phenomenon is all about.

Find out why so many smart women make this stupid mistake.

In my work as a relationship coach and blogger, I hear it over and over again — yet, at some level, it still takes me by surprise — "Why do so many really smart, accomplished and attractive women go for 'bad boys' or Alpha males?

" In other words, why does someone who has the potential to be an incredible catch sabotage herself with such poor choices?Here's the Secret Dating Advice: An Alpha male is a man who owns himself, a leader of the pack.He is internally driven and certain of who he is and what he wants.It is the very essence of masculine energy so it's no surprise that feminine energy finds it so appealing.The downside of the Alpha is he can sometimes be self-obsessed, insensitive, jealous, controlling, perhaps even demeaning or violent in extreme cases.The downside for those who are in relationships with that type of guy is that he is often unfaithful because so many women respond primitively to his darker, masculine energy that he has more choices available to him.