what you want to do to her until she’s hot and sweaty and ready to claw your clothes off?

And then suggest going to a quieter place or grabbing a nightcap or going to an after party, or whatever else comes to your head.

Quick note: if it’s on, you don’t even have to go back to normal conversation. When I first started using it, its effectiveness truly astounded me.

You can just tell her that you guys can make it happen and leave right then and there. And what was even more shocking was that the hotter the girl was, the – or if it’s less on, when you arrive at your destination – you stop the girl and get a serious look on your face.

I knew she could feel my hot breath stinging the side of her face. I started to speak from my diaphragm, ensuring my voice was at least an octave lower than normal. I told her that if we weren’t in a public venue, I would slam her up against the wall, pull her hair back and kiss her all over her neck while I ripped her clothes off. I was recently bantering back and forth with a girl and we were talking about work and laughing about funny professional stories – nothing too risqué…until I threw some subtle sexuality into the mix.

And before the night was over, she knew that I was far from all talk. I stopped laughing and looked at her as if I wanted to grab her and Since she’s laughing, she can’t accuse you of being creepy or overly sexual, but since you did just make a sexual comment, she sees you more in the lover frame.

And while I was walking the walk, I continued to dirty talk with her until she couldn’t help but release the animal within. Sexual jokes, when used well, can be really powerful tools for moving an interaction forward.

I’ve had a lot of experience with dirty talk when either hooking up with girls or sexting them. But what I can tell you without a doubt is that in the same way that Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. I don’t need to reiterate the importance of touch in the art of seduction.

So if you’ve been engaging in light sexual banter, this is the time to start .

You should be playfully touching her while you banter, and as you begin to deep dive her and make the interaction a bit more substantive, you should start using the more prolonged forms of touch.