She played along and pushed right back and they’ve already got a first date lined up. “He was so lively and engaging that I sort of had no choice but to come back with something equally witty and creative.” “So by him writing something playful and interesting to you, he actually brought out a more playful and interesting side of you? Wouldn’t it stand to reason that if you took the time to write something interesting and creative back to these guys, you might discover that they actually have a personality?

I may email again, saying, “If you want to know anything just ask”, etc. It’s that you probably haven’t given her a compelling reason to be. “So if a man can make you into a more engaging person by writing a witty first email, wouldn’t it make sense that you could turn a man into a more engaging person by doing the same?

but I still get no questions in return to start a conversation. If you want to know why your email correspondence online is generally flat and falls apart after a few emails, you have to look in the mirror and take responsibility for your part in it. ” “Yes, but it’s a lot easier when he says something and I can respond to him.” “I agree.

Just today, I was on the phone with a client who was sharing the same experience with me: “ It wasn’t until she showed me one really GOOD email from a guy that she started to get it. But look at the emails you write back to the boring men.

He asked her a silly question and started grilling her with more and more trivia questions, teasing her about what she might win if she got all the questions right. “It made me funny in response to him,” she replied. They’re just as boring as the ones that you received.

Having a few of these questions memorized should keep the conversation moving. Keep asking interesting questions, don’t say much about yourself, and a person will walk away thinking you’re the best conversationalist they know. Don’t be checking your phone, scanning around the room for hotter dates, or thinking about yourself.

Bonus: many of these questions work well on any first meeting with a stranger from co-workers to friends of friends.

I seem to run into this a lot and haven’t seen this addressed.

In my first email, I usually ask a few questions and figure the female will answer them, which they usually do, but then they don’t ask anything of me but still seem interested.

We all want someone to set the tone and follow along, instead of realizing that we’re always setting the tone ourselves.