And not just “any someone,” but a person you think might turn out to be the romantic partner you’ve been looking for?

” Here are four tips that will help you hit the sweet spot when buying a gift for someone new in your life: 1. Honestly now, who doesn’t want to get a present at Christmas? The best romantic gifts—even when the relationship is brand new—are ones that keep pointing to you long after the wrapping paper has been tossed.

Even as adults we can’t help but feel that delicious anticipation when handed a package with our name on it. On the other hand, what you give really is important. Example: A sampling of chocolates from places you’ve visited around the world; a copy of your favorite book, with a note about why it’s meaningful to you; a special meal you prepare from scratch.

To be remembered and valued in any relationship, whatever its nature or potential may be, is something we all crave and appreciate. There are two types of gifts that can backfire in the early stages of a relationship: one that is overly expensive and one that is overly intimate. A gift doesn’t have to be large or expensive to be personally meaningful. Put something of yourself in the gift—to let your dating partner know you better.

Stop over-thinking the question—to give or not to give? In either case you run the risk that your potential partner will see the gift as a covert attempt to test the waters in the relationship, or to push it to a new level before he or she is ready. Dating and gift-giving go together like eggnog and Christmas cookies.

You want to choose a gift that simply says “I was thinking of you,” not “I was imagining our future life together.” 3. It is equally important to avoid letting the pendulum swing too far the other way, with a commonplace gift that has no meaning at all. Keep it simple and lighthearted—and enjoy another reason to celebrate.

Now is your chance to have some fun and get to know your prospective partner better, to discover what he or she truly enjoys and values.

The situation: you’ve started a new relationship in the past couple of weeks / months, and you know that Christmas is coming. Buy them something that’s a little pricier and is something you think they’d like but haven’t found the time or the money to buy yet. You can make it intimate if that’s where you’re at, but again, stay away from love ferns.

Once again, ‘tis the season for your annual quest to find the perfect Christmas gift for important people in your life.

At the best of times, gift-giving can be a strange and stressful mixture of obligation and a genuine desire to show appreciation for the relationship.