Every day I get emails from women who want one-on-one dating coaching but don’t want to try online dating.Rather than dip your toe in the water and give up because you’re intimidated, I highly encourage you to check out Finding the One Online, in which I hold your hand through the entire online dating process, from getting over your fears, to choosing a website, to writing a profile, to flirting with men and so on.

” Here, I spared you the trouble of Googling it: The 14 Best Places to Meet Eligible Men Without giving anything away, Loriann, here are the actual places that have been recommended by a site called All Womens Talk: the bar, the market, online, church, the water cooler, newspapers, college, friends, the gym, restaurants, work, vacation, parks, airplanes. Apparently, it means standing around a lot, hoping that a cute, age appropriate, interested single guy happens upon you at the bar, the market, college, the gym, restaurants, parks, and airplanes.

” They usually come back with a “Well, I thought, as a dating coach, you’d have some ideas on meeting men. ” No, that’s what articles in Marie Claire are all about: “The Ten Top Spots to Meet Hot Guys!

If not, what exactly are we going to talk about for 12 weeks?

I tell each one the same exact thing: “If you’re dating a few men right now and can guarantee me that you’ll have at least one date a week for the duration of our time together, we can start coaching.

There a couple of things one can do to meet people, particularly if over 40. Eat out, grab coffee, and hang out at different places each week.

Go to any party you're invited to, join clubs with people who do what you like to do, volunteer, get involved socially. As a dating coach, I know that people resist it because they're scared to try something so unfamiliar to them.

But it's like anything else – there's a way to do it successfully, and it's a great way to meet people you wouldn't normally meet.

I am 44 years old and entering the dating scene again for the first time in 25 years. I am not doing the online singles sites…that is just scary to me. I am new in town, with a few happily married friends. So much of my time was taken up with caring for someone else that now I just don’t know how to fill that time. Thanks for highlighting an important principle for women over 40 seeking love: You will not find it unless you do something differently. It’s called Match.com, it’s open 24 hours a day, and it costs a lot less than getting on a plane and hoping to sit next to a 45-year-old eligible bachelor.

I have four grown who are trying to set me up (I love them, but what a nightmare!! I highly suggest you get over your fear of online dating, not because it’s perfect by any stretch of the imagination, but because it’s ubiquitous and effective in creating opportunity.