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Maybe you’ve decided to finally give online dating a try, or maybe you’re just wondering why your matches aren’t responding to your profile. Don’t whine about your singleness status, about the bad first dates you’ve had lately or about the sad state of politics in your area.

There are a few profile-writing strategies to optimize the likelihood of interest from potential matches. Keep in mind the rules of first-date conversation and apply them to how you introduce yourself to strangers online, too. Keep your profile upbeat and focused on all the great things you have to offer and are looking for in a new relationship.

Here are ten things to never write in an online profile: 1. Insulting the method — or the people using the method — of finding love that you’re currently giving a try is a huge turn-off. Don’t lie about your height, age or weight: you’ll be found out soon enough. (Hint: No one’s profile says “seeking bitter pessimist.”) 6. If your profile is ten times longer than everyone else’s, it won’t be given much attention. They shouldn’t be able to identify your specific place of work, home address, last name or personal contact information from your profile. Don’t demand that your future partner love, worship, and adore you.

You’ll come across as condescending and judgmental. Don’t pretend to have a better job than you do, or that you’re more prepared for long-term commitment than you currently are. Be concise, clear, and watch out for typos and grammatical errors. Related to #6: Don’t be too vague or use too many clichéd phrases. Be careful to screen your photos, too: Don’t upload a pic of yourself in front of your new home, for example. Don’t list the qualities you believe you “deserve.” Instead, focus on what you have to offer. If you can’t put the time into filling out a simple dating profile, why would an interested guy/gal assume you’d put the time investing into getting to know them? My friends could better answer this for you.” Good luck!

Don’t bite the hand that might be feeding you your soulmate. You don’t need to share all your dirty little secrets in your profile, but you shouldn’t use deception to lure dates either. Never list what you’re looking for money-wise or baby-wise in a relationship. Everyone likes “having fun” and would list their musical tastes as “eclectic.” You’re certainly not the only person who “can’t live without oxygen, friends, and family.” Fill your profile with details that reflect you as an individual. Related: Don’t provide a list of dating rules or expectations — unless you don’t want anyone to contact you.

Do you remember what it’s like to be in an exciting new relationship? He talks about making vacation plans in the future. But if you’re anything like me, you’re constantly seeking the truth.

You’ve got this electric chemistry and everything’s going swimmingly. In only a few weeks together, you feel like this was meant to be…and your mind goes wild with the possibilities. The problem is that – in relationships with flawed humans and flawed communication – the truth is often really hard to find.

You daydream about what life will be like when you’re married. Maybe you made peace with the past, maybe you haven’t.

I’ve been in the exact same position and I wanted answers, too.

The good news is that, in this blog, you’re going to learn one of the main truths that women go their whole life without learning.

I first realized that this truth was a revelation after giving a speech to a group of 100 singles, aged 25-40. Despite the raucous laughter and the nodding heads, there was one time that you could hear a pin drop. They want someone tall, masculine, intelligent, and decisive.